ESP and Marital Infidelity

The following cases were reported by psychologist Henry Reed, a colleague of mind involved with the Intuition Network:

One woman wrote to him about how she uncovered her husband's affair through dreams. She had a dream where he told her that he loved another woman. She woke up crying from the dream and her husband comforted her, assuring there was no basis to the dream. Later, however, he confessed. When he did so, he said to her the exact words she had heard him say in her dream.

Another woman wrote to Henry Reed that twice she dreamed of her husband's infidelities. In both cases, when she told him the dream, the details were so surprisingly accurate, he involuntarily confessed on the spot. A few years later, she had a similar experience, but without the aid of a dream. In this case, he had been staying late at work, complaining that they had been unable to hire extra help for the summer. One night when he came home, she heard a voice in her shout out, and she repeated it aloud, "who is the new person who's working with you?" She was surprised to hear her say these words, for they were in direct contradiction to what her husband had been telling her. He confessed that they did have extra help. It was a woman and she and he were having an affair.

Human feelings being as they are, it is not that uncommon for people to have a jealousy dream in which they see their spouse or lover entangled with someone else. It would make good sense to treat such dreams as pictures of our own worries. Consider this dream sent to Henry Reed by a woman from Massachusetts:

"My husband and I were in a gray stone castle. I was standing on a balcony looking down over a huge ballroom. At least a hundred people were dancing. It was a breathtakingly beautiful sight like a fabulous theatrical production. I went to look for my husband. I walked into a room and saw him there with a half-dressed woman. They were as startled to see me as I was to see them. Then, with a smirk on her face, the woman told me she was a lawyer who had come to consult with my husband on a legal matter. He backed up her ridiculous story. My shock and anger now turned to fury and the woman became afraid of me. She grabbed her dress, coat and handbag and ran from the room."

The wife thought the dream was "only symbolic." Two weeks later, however, when she and her husband were out shopping at a large mall, a woman came running up to them. She created a very loud and humiliating scene. From the woman's remarks it was clear that she was involved with our dreamer's husband. The wife was amazed at this revelation and gave the woman quite a stare--who was this woman? Suddenly the wife recognized her: she was the woman of her dream!

Another woman wrote to Henry Reed that one day a good friend phoned her, quite upset, and relayed this story: After eight years of marriage, she fell in love with her husband's brother. She kept these feelings to herself for a long time, but one day, the brother came over to the house and they had an intimate encounter. Within five minutes of their liaison, the phone rang. It was the woman's husband. He cried out over the phone, "Did you just make love to somebody?" The wife was overwhelmed with disbelief. All she could do was reply, "What?" The husband said, "I know this sounds crazy, but I just had this incredibly strong feeling that you were with another man." The phone call left the wife stunned and she picked up the phone and recounted the incident to her friend, confessing the whole story.

One woman wrote Henry Reed about a dinner conversation with her husband that proved surprising. She found herself blurting out of the blue some derogatory comments about a woman her husband knew. She thought it odd, as she hadn't seen or heard of this woman for over a year. Her husband was surprised too, so surprised, in fact, that he confessed that he had a sexual encounter with that woman just that afternoon.

Here are some additional cases of a similar nature that were collected by pioneer parapsychology researcher Louisa Rhine:

A wife who had never really known jealousy of her husband, for example, had a dream where she saw him leaning against a wall with a woman in front of him. He had both of his arms around her and they were talking and laughing. The next day she asked her husband in a joking sort of way, "If you were against a wall last night standing with a woman holding her in your arms, who might that woman be?" He laughed and said, "I didn't do anything wrong honey, that was just the waitress at the restaurant. She came over to me and said "how's my sweetie?" How did you happen to know?" The wife started to tell him the dream but then for some reason decided that she didn't want him to know about it. So she said she just happened to have gone down for a cup of coffee and happened to see him there.

Louisa Rhine tells the story of a woman working as a waitress in a cafeteria who met a young man who flirted with her. They went out on a date and fell in love. One day he said he had to make a business trip to Boston but would return in a week. That night, she had a dream in which she saw a "sad, frail woman with dark brown hair and in the last stages of pregnancy" who told her that she was the man's wife. The next day, the waitress happened to hear from somebody that the man had not gone on a business trip, but was going to see his wife who, he had learned, was about to have a baby. When the man did return she confronted him with this information, and learned that it was the truth.

In another case, it was the man who wrote to Louisa. He was away from home on a business trip with friends. They ran into some girls and he became somewhat smitten with one of them. After that trip he phoned her a couple of times from his hometown. The next time he traveled to New York, he called her, they had a date and they ended up spending the night together. When they woke up the next morning, she had what she thought was a funny dream, which she told him. In her dream, she saw the man was married to a slim woman with dark hair and a black tooth in front of her mouth. She described their house on the waterfront with its array of boats. In the dream, the couple's daughter came up to the dreamer and said, "Oh, you go out with my father." Hearing this dream shocked the man because everything, with the exception of children, was accurate. He didn't let on that the dream was accurate, but began to distance himself from the woman and gradually broke off the relationship. She never knew her dream was psychic.

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