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The Bankruptcy of Marriage -- A 1928 Perspective

Posted on Sep 7th, 2008 by Jeff Mishlove : Transformer Jeff Mishlove
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Most people today are aware of the enormous social pressures on traditional institutions such as marriage. Typically, however, we lack a historical perspective on how these pressures have evolved over the last two centuries of the "Industrial Revolution." So, I was very pleased to discover the analysis of social critic V. F. Calverton (aka George Goetz) in his 1928 book, The Bankruptcy of Marriage (New York: Macauley). Below, I have condensed an overview of this book as well as the first chapter, titled "The Jazz Age." Of particular interest, I think, is the emphasis on the effect of the first world war.

Overview

The world is on the threshold of revolutionary change. In some places, of course, this change is going on faster, and in more sweeping fashion, than in others. This is inevitable. The disintegration of the family, and the decay of the marital institution of the modern world, accompanied by the rise and revolt of youth, are revolutionary developments in our civilization.

The revolution in morals which has occurred in our age is the harbinger of a revolution in social life which is hastening upon us. The new morality had already started to stir before the War. It was the War, however, that set these forces into rapid rotation. The present struggle against the sexual ethics of the older generations is but part of a larger struggle against the older ways of life.

Revolt in one field can only be genuinely successful if revolt is also carried into the other fields of life. Moral revolt against an old order can never be secure in its success as long as the old order remains dominant in other forms of existence. 

The Jazz Age

At nights, in the large cities, life spins itself into melodrama. The mad dance of youth, intoxicated with the swell of its new freedom, has encircled the western world. Jazz has become an accepted institution. It expresses the spirit of the age. Youth has steeped itself in its intoxications. Repressions have been released, and in the abandonments of modern life, exhibitionism has changed from a vice into a virtue.

In the flapper we find a vivid symbol of this change. This new girl, with all her emptiness of ideas and effusiveness of emotions, is a revolutionary outgrowth on the feminine scene. Her speech, her dress, her gesture are outspoken evidences of the nature of her insurrection. The spread of her influence has been infectious.

In this whirling race of Change, all restraints and restrictions have been sacrificed. The inhibitions once indispensable to feminine virtue have become riddled with scorn. The old sanctity of marriage has been ridiculed by sallies of wit and satire fired at it from every side. Sexual excitements and ecstasies have become experiences to crave and not to constrain. The flapper is consumed by them. Life becomes vivid through their repetition. The old conventions that separated the sexes have been shattered. The old waltz has surrendered to the new jazz. In place of the spinster has sprung up the bachelor girl. She undresses her mind as well as her body. Instead of hiding her ankles, she now bares her knees; instead of corseting her bust, she "v’s” her neck. Instead of the old moral literature, she devours the emancipated new.

The old family has decayed. The old home has been replaced by the movie, the club, the dance-hall. Home has become a place to dine and die.

All over the western world it is the same. This new girl, this modern flapper, with her lack of respect for the ideals of her predecessors; and this new masculine youth, with his disregard for the old responsibilities, his disdain for marriage, and contempt for virtue— both were born in the fury of their revolt, in the days of the World War and those that have immediately followed.

The jazz age was born in its tornado of intensity from the vortices of the World War and its aftermath. In recent years its momentum has increased with melodramatic rapidity. Wherever we turn we find its effects scrawled across the face of things. It is part of the chaos of the era.

It is not that the fundamental cause for revolt against the old morals was found in the World War — it had already begun to stir before the War—but that it took but this catastrophe and its aftermath to set it into rapid rotation.

The World War not only annihilated the flower of European youth, but it left its deeper effects on the youth that remained, and the generation that grew up with the War as its noisy sentinel. Careers were wrecked, plans broken, and inspiration converted into a brutal war-cry. The ideals for which men fought became mere traffic in the eyes of profiteer and prostitute.

Youth was disillusioned of purpose and aspiration.

In Paris the orgy of war-madness transformed the stage into a brothel, with words as mere decoration for gesture and action. The psychosis of the last fling predominated. The imminence of death drove men to the last extremities of desire. Nothing mattered! The theatre responded to their needs. Music halls, cabarets, and amusement resorts had catered to this tendency from the very beginning of the war. Now the theater turned to a kind of sexual insanity in its eagerness to entertain and satisfy the soldier.

The European world had been too startled from its equilibrium ever to return to its old routine and ritual. The returning soldiers were not the same men who had once gone to war. They were apprehensive, restless, and disillusioned. The brutalizing terrorism of the war had made these men into maniacs; and it required more than a sudden truce to calm those impulses which this madness of conflict had aroused. The old moral values had lost their influence and power. Bitterness and hatred had become more than occasional emotions in the lives of these men.

The modern dance was an inevitable outgrowth of this war-madness. Modern youth responded to the wild call. What mattered? To live, to live intensely, to live furiously, to seize from life its every thrill. Such became the new motivation.

In Paris, after the war, they danced. It was the mad, delirious dancing of men and women who had to seize upon something as a vicarious outlet for their crazed emotions. They did not want old opiates that induced sleep and the delusion of a sweet stillness of things and silence. They did not seek the escape which an artificial lassitude brings to minds tormented with worry and pain. They wanted an escape that was active, dynamic, electrical. It had to be an escape that exhilarated, that brought restfulness only from exhaustion. The spirit of tranquillity was alien to the trend of the age.

Youth in its revolt has not only turned against the old traditions, but in its search for the new it is dissipating its energies in extravagance and excess. Things serious have too often become greeted with a sneer. Cynicism has become the new faith.

This World War, then, shot into shreds the old ideals, the old morals, the old customs. It is the same in France, the same in England, the same in America. The Age of Innocence is dead.

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Elliott : Elliott Evolving
about 1 hour later
Elliott said

This is a great excerpt/summary. I recently had the honor of marrying two friends of mine and was asked to comment on the “institution.” I reflected on how each generation must navigate the tension between what the conventions of society seem to point to and how their own experience contradicts this. I think the degree to which each person in a couple has a healthy spiritual practice is the degree to which each one can navigate the tension.

There are great reasons to practice monogamous commitment and great reasons to deviate but how mindful can a couple be in living these choices? I guess that is where the practice comes in. As each choice is made it has to be live and this is not always easy. As my uncle Marty told me, “you can be right or you can be married - you must choose and choose wisely.”  Again, this is where the fruits of spiritual practice like equanimity and compassion come in handy.

Anyway - my two cents - thanks for the thought-provoking post.

Elliott

Bill I. : Magnolian
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Bill I. said

Dear Jeff:

I'll grant you that the events of 1914-1918 were tough, and not just on marriage – aside from the major carnage, the havoc visited on a doddering class system (where it existed), and the lingering psychic and economic effects, entire empires vanished forever.

Yet so many times – and so many marriages – are reasonably accessible to many (likely most) of us, as those experiences all reside in our subconscious, a place where psychology meets the supernatural.

Thus we need not necessarily delve into history books to gain an historical perception of the changes wrought, not just to marriage, but all other institutions, and not just modern changes, either.

Consider how, for example, female gods reigned as powerfully as male gods, once, or even those pairs of divine married couples. (Enki and Damgalnunna of Eridu come to mind.) At some point, however, the pattern changed and became somewhat rigidified for far too many centuries.

Everything is always changing, but of course sometimes things change much more quickly than at other times, whether as a result of The Great War or that which presently occurs (and has many names).

Regards

Bill I.

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